Urgent: Gift Dilemma Sparks Debate Over Knockoff Perfume

UPDATE: A pressing dilemma has emerged as a reader turns to Miss Manners for advice on whether to address receiving two knockoff bottles of her signature perfume from friends. This situation highlights a growing concern about authenticity in online shopping, especially as the holiday season approaches.

The reader, who remains unnamed, revealed that both gifts—one from a long-time friend and another from a beloved cousin—were purchased online and turned out to be fakes. “I know this scent well, and the fake bottles were easy to detect,” the reader expressed, indicating her discomfort with the situation. Both gift-givers are financially comfortable and would never knowingly buy counterfeit products.

As the holiday season draws nearer, the reader is torn between being honest about the counterfeit nature of the gifts and protecting her friends from embarrassment. Miss Manners advises that it may not be worth the awkwardness of revealing the truth, suggesting that the friends will likely not repeat the mistake in the future. “They will have no choice but to feel bad about their blunder,” she noted.

In a separate but equally relatable scenario, another reader expressed disappointment over a lackluster birthday greeting from her older brother. After celebrating her 50th birthday with a close brother, she was hurt when her older sibling merely texted her without a gift or personal touch. The reader called her brother twice, but he has yet to deliver the promised present, leading to emotional turmoil.

Miss Manners recommends letting it go, stating, “Nagging him is making both the present and the prospect of a better relationship more distant.” Instead, she humorously suggests that the reader consider giving her brother a gift on his next birthday as a way to balance the scales.

As the holiday season approaches, many individuals face similar dilemmas, whether it’s the authenticity of gifts or managing expectations with family. Miss Manners’ insights resonate widely, offering a blend of etiquette and emotional intelligence that many find valuable during this time of year.

In addition, Miss Manners addressed a common question regarding holiday bonuses for household staff. For those considering rewarding their cleaners, she suggests giving a generous bonus to the main housekeeper while informing her that it’s intended for both her and her assistant. “This will make the decision of how to split it her problem,” she remarked.

As these discussions unfold, Miss Manners encourages readers to reflect on the values of honesty and kindness, especially when navigating the complexities of gift-giving and relationships during the festive season.

For more insights and to submit your questions, visit Miss Manners’ official website at www.missmanners.com or contact her via email.